Why am I so unhappy?featured

By Andrew Wilding

Top 8 questions about hypnotherapy #2: Why am I so unhappy? How to cure depression

depression is a habit of thinking. If you take back control of your thoughts you will naturally do the things that make you happy.

The cure for your depression is the exit that you take now


Like anxiety, depression is a feeling caused by hormones that are released into your bloodstream by your central nervous system when your subconscious mind believes that you are in danger – it is the triggering of your fight/flight response.

We are not all the same, and depending on your personality and where you are in the anxiety/depression cycle you may favour “flight” over “fight”, so if you suffer with depression your cerebellum is triggering the flight response to prepare for escape from a threat, but the problem is: you can not escape.

A survival counter-program then takes over from the feeling that you would usually have during an escape attempt – adrenaline to prepare you for running and jumping and climbing trees. This counter-program keeps your body running at a low output to conserve your energy until such time as it is safe for you to escape, and this is what we call depression. It is very much like hibernation, in that your digestion slows down; you feel very sleepy and lethargic; have very little energy; and do not feel motivated or inspired to do anything in life. You are literally waiting for things to get better before you waste any more energy in trying.

In most cases the cause of depression is the same problem that causes anxiety – in fact most people will experience both depression and anxiety as a cycle until their problem is solved.

Curing depression through the correct use of hypnosis is successful. There are thousands of cases of cures – even in clinical depression where the body is deficient in a certain hormone. Because the body is far more complicated and intelligent than current psychiatric medicine can explain or duplicate, these cases of cures have been dismissed as coincidental, however, recent breakthroughs in neuroplasticity prove that the brain can learn to rewire itself simply by practising. The question is: what thought, belief or reason for living do you need to practice and remind yourself of constantly, to enjoy life? What does your mind need you to do, to feel happy?

It’s complicated because often by the time you find someone who can help you, much of your life needs rebuilding, and this takes energy and motivation which feels overwhelming. I can help you to find where in your life to focus your energy, and what you need to do on a daily basis to make your life fun and enjoyable.

Right now the most important step for you is to learn to control your mind and focus your thoughts on what you CAN do, because your thoughts will naturally sink into what you can not do. And be very strict with yourself in thinking positively, because depression is a habit of thinking. If you take back control of your thoughts you will naturally do the things that make you happy.

Hypnotherapy is the most effective way to learn control of your thoughts because it’s like having a personal trainer right there to help you, and you can do this online or at my rooms in Tokai, Cape Town.

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I look forward to helping you.



About the author

Andrew Wilding

Andrew Wilding is a Counseling Hypnotherapist (HMI C.Ht) specialising in creative Visualization and psychoacoustics. He is also a radio presenter on Fine Music Radio, committee member of the Friends of Orchestral Music Cape Town, and a motivational speaker.